Monday, August 20, 2012
Things We Do For Love!!!: 10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed
Things We Do For Love!!!: 10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed: Have you ever wondered why she has a frown whenever you feel you should have given her a good time? If you have your woman constantly at wit...
10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed
Have you ever wondered why she has a frown whenever you feel you should have given her a good time? If you have your woman constantly at wits end or unhappy after sex with you, be sure that there is a mistake somewhere and you just might be making one or more of the 10 most common mistakes men make in bed.
1- Why start the foreplay in bed? It is a bore when everything starts and ends in bed, even when you know that the ultimate game is sex, you should not make foreplay only a bed thing. You could get cuddly while in the sitting room or in the eatery, sneaking a peck on the forehead, a touch on her nape and a brief brush around her earlobe even while driving sure would get
her in the mood.
2 - Why aim for the clits? I am yet to understand why men always aim for the clitoris , it’s not some doorknob. Try not to always go straight for the g- spot, discover where she is most sensitive and responsive. I am sure your woman would be more than glad to show you.
3 - Why make it a silent game? No one ever said people should have sex in silence, learn to talk while in bed, you could share compliments or ask if she is okay with a certain move you make while in the act, laughter and small talks would make the atmosphere less tense and it sure would make the sex better.
4 - Are you the scorer, she the keeper? This is quite common for men. Leaving a woman hanging in sex to me is more of a sin. Ensure you carry the woman along and never ever come before her, except
you are a stallion and can rise immediately. If not allow her get to a semi climax before riding so you can hit the roof together, it is
more fun that way.
5- Quit the conventional. I hear some folks talk about conventional sex styles, well, if the woman is okay with that, I seal my lips. However, most modern women enjoy more spice and dynamics in bed. Be creative with sex; avoid being a straightjacket dude in bed. You would be surprised how crazy and creative your gentle woman can be.
6 - How do you lick the sauce? Many men miss it when giving a woman a head. The clit is better seen like a sauce that needs to be licked up than a hot dog that needs to shove down the throat. Quit the disgusting rush to give her a head, and if you must, ensure you do it right.
7 - So what is with the porn approach? Every woman would appreciate some respect while in bed. Do not treat your woman like your favourite porn star or try to play out a porn fantasy on her except there is a common understanding to this end. Quit imposing blowjobs and abstain from the use of violence or dirty languages.
8 - You missed the G-spot? It is terrible to go hovering under without a mental tracker of where you’re headed. It is highly unsexy for a man not to know where to find the G-spot. Next time you’re going on a treasure hunt be sure to go with your map or better still politely, ask for directions.
9 - Did you visit the gym? One rather bad sex move is dozing off immediately after the act. Hey, come on! A little
tease or a warm cuddle would sure do the trick. Do not go rolling off to the other side and snoring off immediately. Be sure she is contented and even where you performed below expectation, apologise and promise a better one next time. Plant kisses on her and have her sleep off on you, a move most women would die for.
10- What is the packaging? Keep you self clean and appealing, a body odour, bad breath, unshaved… would sure be a big mistake. Anyone would feel more aroused by a sweet and clean
body. When next you about going on that sex escapade, ensure you a double check and get rid of any offensive smells or sights.
1- Why start the foreplay in bed? It is a bore when everything starts and ends in bed, even when you know that the ultimate game is sex, you should not make foreplay only a bed thing. You could get cuddly while in the sitting room or in the eatery, sneaking a peck on the forehead, a touch on her nape and a brief brush around her earlobe even while driving sure would get
her in the mood.
2 - Why aim for the clits? I am yet to understand why men always aim for the clitoris , it’s not some doorknob. Try not to always go straight for the g- spot, discover where she is most sensitive and responsive. I am sure your woman would be more than glad to show you.
3 - Why make it a silent game? No one ever said people should have sex in silence, learn to talk while in bed, you could share compliments or ask if she is okay with a certain move you make while in the act, laughter and small talks would make the atmosphere less tense and it sure would make the sex better.
4 - Are you the scorer, she the keeper? This is quite common for men. Leaving a woman hanging in sex to me is more of a sin. Ensure you carry the woman along and never ever come before her, except
you are a stallion and can rise immediately. If not allow her get to a semi climax before riding so you can hit the roof together, it is
more fun that way.
5- Quit the conventional. I hear some folks talk about conventional sex styles, well, if the woman is okay with that, I seal my lips. However, most modern women enjoy more spice and dynamics in bed. Be creative with sex; avoid being a straightjacket dude in bed. You would be surprised how crazy and creative your gentle woman can be.
6 - How do you lick the sauce? Many men miss it when giving a woman a head. The clit is better seen like a sauce that needs to be licked up than a hot dog that needs to shove down the throat. Quit the disgusting rush to give her a head, and if you must, ensure you do it right.
7 - So what is with the porn approach? Every woman would appreciate some respect while in bed. Do not treat your woman like your favourite porn star or try to play out a porn fantasy on her except there is a common understanding to this end. Quit imposing blowjobs and abstain from the use of violence or dirty languages.
8 - You missed the G-spot? It is terrible to go hovering under without a mental tracker of where you’re headed. It is highly unsexy for a man not to know where to find the G-spot. Next time you’re going on a treasure hunt be sure to go with your map or better still politely, ask for directions.
9 - Did you visit the gym? One rather bad sex move is dozing off immediately after the act. Hey, come on! A little
tease or a warm cuddle would sure do the trick. Do not go rolling off to the other side and snoring off immediately. Be sure she is contented and even where you performed below expectation, apologise and promise a better one next time. Plant kisses on her and have her sleep off on you, a move most women would die for.
10- What is the packaging? Keep you self clean and appealing, a body odour, bad breath, unshaved… would sure be a big mistake. Anyone would feel more aroused by a sweet and clean
body. When next you about going on that sex escapade, ensure you a double check and get rid of any offensive smells or sights.
Monday, August 13, 2012
Things We Do For Love!!!: WAYS TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU LOVES HIM
Things We Do For Love!!!: WAYS TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU LOVES HIM: As we enter into marriage, we may wonder how we ever lived life without our mate. We’re focused on each other, and that makes us close. Ho...
WAYS TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU LOVES HIM
As we enter into marriage, we may wonder how we ever lived life without our mate. We’re focused on each other, and that makes us close.
However, the longer we’re married, our focus tends to turn to jobs, bills, or children and less on each other. Unfortunately, this causes many marriages to turn cold and some eventually die.
Have you ever wondered how people stay married for 30, 40, or more years? Do you want your marriage to last a lifetime? The key is to stay focused on your mate.
Here are some ways for you to show your husband your love. Choose at least five every day and watch your marriage blossom into a wonderful relationship!
TEXT HIM A LOVE MESSAGE -Send him a romantic text message on his cell. Make sure it’s sweet but spicy.
DO ONE OF HIS CHORES FOR HIM -Pick a chore that he dreads, such as mowing the lawn, and do it for him. Watch him as he sighs with relief.
START A HOBBY TOGETHER Sharing a hobby together such as horse back riding, completing a home improvement project, watching sports together can help keep you close.
PLAY A GAME TOGETHER Have fun doing things together such as playing board games, riding bumper boats, or playing miniature golf. Just remember, if he should get the best of you, don’t tackle him unless you’re laughing!
SHOW APPRECIATION When your husband works hard, or does something for you, let him know you appreciate him.
MAKE YOUR HOME HIS REFUGE Let your home be a haven were your husband can retreat from the stresses of life. Do your best to make it a pleasant environment.
LAUGH AT HIS ANTICS – Don’t let the little things that your husband does get on your nerves. If you think about it, some of these things may have been what attracted you to him! He just wouldn’t be the same if he didn’t do these things.
PRAY FOR HIM – Ask God to give him that extra boost to make everything OK. Let your husband hear you pray too. This will let him know that when you can’t make it right, you’ll ask someone who can.
CHECK BEFORE THROWING THINGS AWAY If your husband has some things that seem useless to you, don’t trash them until you’ve made sure he doesn’t need them.
CHECK BEFORE REARRANGING Ask your husband if it’s OK before you move or straighten things on his desk or work area. If he has things where it’s easy to find, it might make it chaotic if it’s moved.
TAKE A WALK OR A HIKE TOGETHER Let nature set the mood for romance! Talk, listen, and hold hands.
DON’T EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND - If there is something you want your husband to know about you, tell him. Don’t expect him to just know what you’re thinking or what you need.
LAUGH TOGETHER - Forget your adults for awhile, and just act silly together. Also, if something should go awry, try to find some humor in it somewhere. This will also reduce the stress of the situation.
RESIST THE URGE TO SNOOP Don’t sneak around and check up on your husband, if you want to know something, ask him to his face.
GIVE HIM A ROMANTIC CARD – Don’t wait for a special occasion to give him a card. Find the most romantic card you can find and leave it in his car. Don’t forget to add your own personal message! Maybe you’ll even make him nervous, wondering if he forgot an anniversary!
PACK HIS FAVORITE TREAT Buy his favorite candy bar or other treat, and pack it in his lunch with a love note.
TAKE A BUBBLE BATH TOGETHER This is self-explanatory.
E-MAIL HIM AN INVITATION FOR ROMANCE Invite him on a rendezvous with you! Build his anticipation, then tell him to RSVP!
TAKE HIM TO TEST DRIVE HIS DREAM CAR - Drive him to a car lot some Saturday, and let him test drive the car of his dreams – even though you probably won’t buy it.
LET HIM BUY THAT TOY Permit him to buy that toy he’s been wanting so badly. Better yet, put some of your own things off, save the money and buy it for him yourself!
TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE The future isn’t as far away as it seems sometimes. Talk about where you’d like to be when you’re married 50 years, and work on making those dreams happen.
GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT Don’t jump to conclusions if your husband has said or done something questionable. Give him the chance to explain before you pass judgement.
LET HIM BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE Although this is growing increasingly unpopular, it does still work. Just because your husband is in charge of the household doesn’t mean that you can’t share your opinions, it just means he’s captain of the team.
SAY, “I’M SORRY” Although you may not want to admit it, there will be times when you’re in the wrong. Maybe you’ve said something hurtful or done something insensitive. Never have too much pride to tell him you’re sorry.
KEEP YOUR PROMISES If you told your husband you’d do something, make sure that you follow through.
RUB HIS FEET Steer him to the recliner and pull off his shoes. Rub his feet for at least 20 minutes. It has been told that this may even improve his health!
MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A LOVER’S PARADISE Turn your ordinary bedroom into any lover’s dream without a lot of expense. Remove clutter and anything that doesn’t belong, and replace it with scented candles and fresh flowers. Hang pretty curtains and find some comfy bedding. Place mirrors to reflect candlelight, and misting fountains for a romantic effect.
WRITE A NOTE ON THE STEAMED-UP BATHROOM MIRROR - While your husband is showering, sneak in and write, “I love you” on the steamed-up bathroom mirror. This will steam him up as well, especially if you seal it with your lip prints!
PUT LOVE IN HIS SUDS - I’m talking about a bar of soap! Scratch “I love you” into his soap so he’ll find it the next time he showers. (You may not want to seal this note with your lip prints, though).
GIVE HIM A MASSAGE - Go buy some sweet smelling oils and turn your bedroom into a spa! Give your husband a full body massage and work out those aching muscles.
PLAY ROMANTIC MUSIC - Keep a good deal of romantic music on hand in your bedroom to help set the mood for romance.
Ladies in the house what do you think?
However, the longer we’re married, our focus tends to turn to jobs, bills, or children and less on each other. Unfortunately, this causes many marriages to turn cold and some eventually die.
Have you ever wondered how people stay married for 30, 40, or more years? Do you want your marriage to last a lifetime? The key is to stay focused on your mate.
Here are some ways for you to show your husband your love. Choose at least five every day and watch your marriage blossom into a wonderful relationship!
TEXT HIM A LOVE MESSAGE -Send him a romantic text message on his cell. Make sure it’s sweet but spicy.
DO ONE OF HIS CHORES FOR HIM -Pick a chore that he dreads, such as mowing the lawn, and do it for him. Watch him as he sighs with relief.
START A HOBBY TOGETHER Sharing a hobby together such as horse back riding, completing a home improvement project, watching sports together can help keep you close.
PLAY A GAME TOGETHER Have fun doing things together such as playing board games, riding bumper boats, or playing miniature golf. Just remember, if he should get the best of you, don’t tackle him unless you’re laughing!
SHOW APPRECIATION When your husband works hard, or does something for you, let him know you appreciate him.
MAKE YOUR HOME HIS REFUGE Let your home be a haven were your husband can retreat from the stresses of life. Do your best to make it a pleasant environment.
LAUGH AT HIS ANTICS – Don’t let the little things that your husband does get on your nerves. If you think about it, some of these things may have been what attracted you to him! He just wouldn’t be the same if he didn’t do these things.
PRAY FOR HIM – Ask God to give him that extra boost to make everything OK. Let your husband hear you pray too. This will let him know that when you can’t make it right, you’ll ask someone who can.
CHECK BEFORE THROWING THINGS AWAY If your husband has some things that seem useless to you, don’t trash them until you’ve made sure he doesn’t need them.
CHECK BEFORE REARRANGING Ask your husband if it’s OK before you move or straighten things on his desk or work area. If he has things where it’s easy to find, it might make it chaotic if it’s moved.
TAKE A WALK OR A HIKE TOGETHER Let nature set the mood for romance! Talk, listen, and hold hands.
DON’T EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND - If there is something you want your husband to know about you, tell him. Don’t expect him to just know what you’re thinking or what you need.
LAUGH TOGETHER - Forget your adults for awhile, and just act silly together. Also, if something should go awry, try to find some humor in it somewhere. This will also reduce the stress of the situation.
RESIST THE URGE TO SNOOP Don’t sneak around and check up on your husband, if you want to know something, ask him to his face.
GIVE HIM A ROMANTIC CARD – Don’t wait for a special occasion to give him a card. Find the most romantic card you can find and leave it in his car. Don’t forget to add your own personal message! Maybe you’ll even make him nervous, wondering if he forgot an anniversary!
PACK HIS FAVORITE TREAT Buy his favorite candy bar or other treat, and pack it in his lunch with a love note.
TAKE A BUBBLE BATH TOGETHER This is self-explanatory.
E-MAIL HIM AN INVITATION FOR ROMANCE Invite him on a rendezvous with you! Build his anticipation, then tell him to RSVP!
TAKE HIM TO TEST DRIVE HIS DREAM CAR - Drive him to a car lot some Saturday, and let him test drive the car of his dreams – even though you probably won’t buy it.
LET HIM BUY THAT TOY Permit him to buy that toy he’s been wanting so badly. Better yet, put some of your own things off, save the money and buy it for him yourself!
TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE The future isn’t as far away as it seems sometimes. Talk about where you’d like to be when you’re married 50 years, and work on making those dreams happen.
GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT Don’t jump to conclusions if your husband has said or done something questionable. Give him the chance to explain before you pass judgement.
LET HIM BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE Although this is growing increasingly unpopular, it does still work. Just because your husband is in charge of the household doesn’t mean that you can’t share your opinions, it just means he’s captain of the team.
SAY, “I’M SORRY” Although you may not want to admit it, there will be times when you’re in the wrong. Maybe you’ve said something hurtful or done something insensitive. Never have too much pride to tell him you’re sorry.
KEEP YOUR PROMISES If you told your husband you’d do something, make sure that you follow through.
RUB HIS FEET Steer him to the recliner and pull off his shoes. Rub his feet for at least 20 minutes. It has been told that this may even improve his health!
MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A LOVER’S PARADISE Turn your ordinary bedroom into any lover’s dream without a lot of expense. Remove clutter and anything that doesn’t belong, and replace it with scented candles and fresh flowers. Hang pretty curtains and find some comfy bedding. Place mirrors to reflect candlelight, and misting fountains for a romantic effect.
WRITE A NOTE ON THE STEAMED-UP BATHROOM MIRROR - While your husband is showering, sneak in and write, “I love you” on the steamed-up bathroom mirror. This will steam him up as well, especially if you seal it with your lip prints!
PUT LOVE IN HIS SUDS - I’m talking about a bar of soap! Scratch “I love you” into his soap so he’ll find it the next time he showers. (You may not want to seal this note with your lip prints, though).
GIVE HIM A MASSAGE - Go buy some sweet smelling oils and turn your bedroom into a spa! Give your husband a full body massage and work out those aching muscles.
PLAY ROMANTIC MUSIC - Keep a good deal of romantic music on hand in your bedroom to help set the mood for romance.
Ladies in the house what do you think?
MARRYING SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT CRAZY ABOUT
My virtual friends, i am posting this because i ant to share the burden i have in my life right now and i seek for honest answer and advice in which ever way. please keep it polite anyone could be in a similar situation and we could all learn from it at the end of the day.
I am 30years of age female working in the oil & gas sector and very comfortable financially. How ever i have been in a platonic relationship with a guy who is currently working in a bank but i am better off financially.
He never hid his intention that he loves me and would want to take things to the next level but i have always maintain my stand of us not rushing things while trying to sort out my real feelings for him.
He asked me to marry him recently and i accepted. The burden i have in my heart now is 1- I am not in love with him and also not s*xually attracted to him. By that i mean im not crazily in love but i like him as a friend.
2- I have concerns about our financial obligation in the sense that i fear he might not provide for me the way a husband should for is wife. i am a traditional person where i believe a man should always provide for his wife no matter how small, in willing to support him but through the three years we have been friends he hasn't provided in the least of money for my salon session.
i feel he is just taking advantage of the fact that i can afford it, so i feel differently. He currently lives with his family and younger brother. i talked to him one day and said he should get a house of his own but till date he hasn't and haven't made any real effort at that yet he talks about facilitating meeting my parents et al.
Question is what are the pros and cons of going ahead to marry this young man or should i just call it off as i have been tempted to several times. BTW he is 35yrs of age, has been working in the bank for 6 yrs as an employee.
As we all know the pressure young ladies face in the society about being single by 30years.
Sunday, August 12, 2012
Who Is Wale? - Sade
I woke up two months ago and saw a man sleeping beside me. “Where am I and who could this man be?” I wondered. I looked at him straight in the face for about 30 seconds, I could not place him. So, I gently got up from the bed and looked out through the window. Still the environment looked unfamiliar.
Quietly, I tried to make my way to other parts of the house. When I got to the sitting room, the place was well arranged and beautifully decorated. But what surprised me were the pictures hanging on the wall around the big television set. There was a large framed wedding picture of me and a man, I presume to be the fellow on the bed. “Who is this man? Is he my husband? But how come I don’t remember?” I asked myself. In the picture we were both smiling and looked so happy together.
In another picture, we were with three lovely children - all boys. We looked good and happy as a family. As I stood there admiring the pictures, I heard footsteps, it was the same man in the pictures. He walked up to me and said, “Sweetheart good morning. I knew you were going to be up very early today since it’s your sister’s wedding. Don’t worry about the boys; we will take care of ourselves. You better go and start getting dressed. We will meet you at the church.” “Who are you? You say my sister is wedding today? Which of my sisters are you talking about?” I asked. “Is this a joke or what? Franca of course,” he stressed. “Darling, are you alright?” he asked. Quickly, I said yes. “You have been working too hard as of late. Anyway, I thank God Franca’s wedding is finally here so that you can rest. You are so stressed up,” he emphasised.
He held my hands and took me to the bedroom. I knew something was not right but I had to play along to find out the truth. I took my bath and dressed since it was obvious I had arranged my clothes and accessories on the sofa the previous night but I could not just remember anything. The wedding card was also beside my clutch purse so, somehow, things were made a bit easy for me.
On my way out, a boy of about six years old rushed out and hugged me. “Good morning mum. You’re looking so beautiful. Daddy said we will meet you at aunty Franca’s wedding later,” he said. He asked me how I was feeling since I complained of headache before going to bed the previous night. I told him I felt better. He hugged me and waved goodbye.
I drove straight to the church and, luckily, I saw my siblings and parents waiting outside the church. They were all excited to see me. “Sade, how are you? What about your husband and the boys?” My mother asked. “They are fine. But mummy please when did I get married?” I asked. “What sort of stupid question are you asking me Sade? You have been married to Wale for seven years and you people love each other so much,” she revealed. “The truth mummy is that I woke up this morning and realised that I don’t remember anybody in that house,” I explained. My mother told me I was probably sick with fever. She promised that we would talk later in the day when the wedding was over.
I met my best friend, Helen, at the wedding and many other friends as well. At a point, I called Helen and asked her when I got married and if I truly have three children. She affirmed. “Helen, I don’t remember anything about marrying Wale much less having three children with him. What about Sylvester my love?” I enquired. “Sade Sylvester was so devastated that you left him for another man. However, he got married about a year after you were married to Wale,” she revealed. She asked me what the matter was. I told her I was very convinced that Wale used charms on me because I don’t recollect marrying him.
I asked Helen how I met Wale and she said that I did not tell her. All I said was that, “I have met the man of my dreams.”
After the whole event was over, my mother told me she was tired. She, however, promised that we would see before the end of the week. So, I went home with Wale and the boys but I noticed that Wale was a little tensed. When we got home, Junior said to me, “Mummy, why are you behaving strange? You are too quiet today. You don’t talk and play with us like you used to.” “Junior, I am sorry if you feel that way. Mummy is just tired,” I said. I hugged and kissed his cheek. He smiled and said, “We love you mummy. Maybe you should go and rest. I must confess that my boys are all handsome and active. Junior, my first son, is six, Samuel is four and Ola is two. Whenever I watch them play I feel so happy that they are my children.
Anyway, I went to the bedroom and picked our wedding album in the bed-room. I took it and started looking through it. “God, see me smiling all through the ceremony, but why can’t I remember anything?” I murmured. I saw many faces I could not even recognise but they were laughing and chatting with me in the pictures.
When Wale entered the room, he could not look at me straight in the face. I was wondering how we met and why I married him and dumped my love, Sylvester. “Why will I dump Sylvester for Wale? Something must be wrong somewhere,” I told myself. “Wale, what happened to me, because everybody and everything in this house look new and strange to me. Please I need answers,” I pleaded. “Sade, I don’t understand what you are talking about. We have lived together as husband and wife for seven years and we love each other dearly,” he emphasised.
I needed quick answers, so I called my parents that I was coming over to the house. They insisted that I should come with Wale. When I told him about the visit, he agreed to go with me. When we got to my parents’ house, my mother called everyone and pleaded that I repeat all I told her at my sister’s wedding. I did. “What seems to be the problem Sade? This was the same young man you brought to us seven years ago despite being engaged to Sylvester. You threatened that if you don’t marry him you will kill yourself. Today you are telling us you don’t remember him? How possible could that be?” My father fumed. To convince me that I was excited marrying Wale, they also showed me our engagement and wedding pictures. I also watched our wedding video but all these did not make any meaning to me. They even showed me my pictures and the children in London and Dubai respectively but it just didn’t click. “Sade, are you really serious that you cannot remember any of these?” Asked my mother. “No, mother,” I replied.
While we were there still trying to figure out what could be the problem, I had a flashback. “Yes, yes, I now remember where I saw this face (pointing at Wale) for the first time,” I said. “I remember I had a flat tyre on my way home one evening and a young man offered to help me change the tyre. When he finished, I thanked and gave him N500 for his help and I drove off. Hmm … that was years ago. I also remember that yesterday evening when I was clearing the wardrobe in the bedroom and suddenly a small calabash fell off from a corner. It had some mixture in it that had a foul smell. I just swept and mopped the floor. I also remember going to bed with a terrible headache,” I revealed.
Everyone noticed that at this point Wale was very uncomfortable on his seat. “Wale, what calabash is Sade talking about? What did you do to my daughter?” My father queried. “I don’t know what calabash she is talking about,” he explained. My father then threatened to call in the police if he finds out any foul play. He told us to go home while he consults with some people. “Take Sade home while I consult with some people. Wale, I hope your hands are clean if not you will spend the rest of your life in prison,” he warned.
At this moment, Wale revealed he had a confession. He said: “That fateful day seven years ago, when I met Sade, I was actually going home from a native doctor’s place. I have had a series of heartbreaks and betrayals from women I love, so I decided to visit the baba so that he would give me love portion. The love portion, according to him, is to be used on any woman I see and like. He stressed that once I liked any woman and I touched her, she would automatically fall in love with me. Fortunately, I saw that she had a flat tyre and needed help, I offered to help her. Although, she gave me N500, because I liked her person I made sure my hands touched her when she was giving me the money. Immediately, she liked and fell hopelessly in love with me. That day, we also exchanged phone numbers and home address. I am not surprised she cannot remember what happened in the seven years we were together because baba said the charm would make the woman not to remember people or happenings from the day I touched her with the charm. He said the charm should be renewed every two years but he warned that the day the charm clears off her eyes, she would remember only happenings that took place within 8 -12 hours. I was supposed to renew the charm last year, which was the sixth year but I refused because I had truly fallen in love with Sade even if she did not realise what was happening around her. But since the calabash fell and got broken, she became free and came back to her senses. I have truly come to love Sade. However, I am sorry,” he pleaded.
Everyone was shocked to their bone marrow while I burst into tears. He pleaded with everyone to forgive him. My father told him to go home while they determine what should be done. I have been at my parents place for some time now but he keeps calling to apologise. My parents insist that they cannot make any decision for me although my marriage to Wale was not with clear eyes. However, they promised to stand by me in whatever my decision is.
I went home recently to pack some of my belongings but when I got there and saw my boys, all I could do was to weep. Junior walked up to me and said, “Mummy, daddy said you are now living in our grandparents’ house. But, why? Why did you leave us? Did daddy do anything wrong to you? We have missed you, please come back home to us.” “Junior, my dear you will not understand even if I explain to you until tomorrow. But all I can tell you is that, mummy needs some time alone. Whatever happens, I want you to know mummy loves you and your brothers,” I said, weeping. “But, can we visit you at grandma’s house,” he asked. “Yes, my dear. Tell daddy to bring you anytime you feel like seeing me,” I said. I hugged and told them to be good boys. Wale stood at a corner feeling guilty but I knew I was not ready to see him as he repulsed me.
I will not deny it that I love my children and would not want to stay apart from them but how do I continue to live with such a man as Wale who charmed me into loving and marrying him? How will they understand what their father did to me at this their tender age? I don’t even love him. But do I continue to stay in the marriage because I have children with him? I need time so that I can make the right decision. But, will my own right decision be the best for my children? He says he has repented. What do I do?
I woke up two months ago and saw a man sleeping beside me. “Where am I and who could this man be?” I wondered. I looked at him straight in the face for about 30 seconds, I could not place him. So, I gently got up from the bed and looked out through the window. Still the environment looked unfamiliar.
Quietly, I tried to make my way to other parts of the house. When I got to the sitting room, the place was well arranged and beautifully decorated. But what surprised me were the pictures hanging on the wall around the big television set. There was a large framed wedding picture of me and a man, I presume to be the fellow on the bed. “Who is this man? Is he my husband? But how come I don’t remember?” I asked myself. In the picture we were both smiling and looked so happy together.
In another picture, we were with three lovely children - all boys. We looked good and happy as a family. As I stood there admiring the pictures, I heard footsteps, it was the same man in the pictures. He walked up to me and said, “Sweetheart good morning. I knew you were going to be up very early today since it’s your sister’s wedding. Don’t worry about the boys; we will take care of ourselves. You better go and start getting dressed. We will meet you at the church.” “Who are you? You say my sister is wedding today? Which of my sisters are you talking about?” I asked. “Is this a joke or what? Franca of course,” he stressed. “Darling, are you alright?” he asked. Quickly, I said yes. “You have been working too hard as of late. Anyway, I thank God Franca’s wedding is finally here so that you can rest. You are so stressed up,” he emphasised.
He held my hands and took me to the bedroom. I knew something was not right but I had to play along to find out the truth. I took my bath and dressed since it was obvious I had arranged my clothes and accessories on the sofa the previous night but I could not just remember anything. The wedding card was also beside my clutch purse so, somehow, things were made a bit easy for me.
On my way out, a boy of about six years old rushed out and hugged me. “Good morning mum. You’re looking so beautiful. Daddy said we will meet you at aunty Franca’s wedding later,” he said. He asked me how I was feeling since I complained of headache before going to bed the previous night. I told him I felt better. He hugged me and waved goodbye.
I drove straight to the church and, luckily, I saw my siblings and parents waiting outside the church. They were all excited to see me. “Sade, how are you? What about your husband and the boys?” My mother asked. “They are fine. But mummy please when did I get married?” I asked. “What sort of stupid question are you asking me Sade? You have been married to Wale for seven years and you people love each other so much,” she revealed. “The truth mummy is that I woke up this morning and realised that I don’t remember anybody in that house,” I explained. My mother told me I was probably sick with fever. She promised that we would talk later in the day when the wedding was over.
I met my best friend, Helen, at the wedding and many other friends as well. At a point, I called Helen and asked her when I got married and if I truly have three children. She affirmed. “Helen, I don’t remember anything about marrying Wale much less having three children with him. What about Sylvester my love?” I enquired. “Sade Sylvester was so devastated that you left him for another man. However, he got married about a year after you were married to Wale,” she revealed. She asked me what the matter was. I told her I was very convinced that Wale used charms on me because I don’t recollect marrying him.
I asked Helen how I met Wale and she said that I did not tell her. All I said was that, “I have met the man of my dreams.”
After the whole event was over, my mother told me she was tired. She, however, promised that we would see before the end of the week. So, I went home with Wale and the boys but I noticed that Wale was a little tensed. When we got home, Junior said to me, “Mummy, why are you behaving strange? You are too quiet today. You don’t talk and play with us like you used to.” “Junior, I am sorry if you feel that way. Mummy is just tired,” I said. I hugged and kissed his cheek. He smiled and said, “We love you mummy. Maybe you should go and rest. I must confess that my boys are all handsome and active. Junior, my first son, is six, Samuel is four and Ola is two. Whenever I watch them play I feel so happy that they are my children.
Anyway, I went to the bedroom and picked our wedding album in the bed-room. I took it and started looking through it. “God, see me smiling all through the ceremony, but why can’t I remember anything?” I murmured. I saw many faces I could not even recognise but they were laughing and chatting with me in the pictures.
When Wale entered the room, he could not look at me straight in the face. I was wondering how we met and why I married him and dumped my love, Sylvester. “Why will I dump Sylvester for Wale? Something must be wrong somewhere,” I told myself. “Wale, what happened to me, because everybody and everything in this house look new and strange to me. Please I need answers,” I pleaded. “Sade, I don’t understand what you are talking about. We have lived together as husband and wife for seven years and we love each other dearly,” he emphasised.
I needed quick answers, so I called my parents that I was coming over to the house. They insisted that I should come with Wale. When I told him about the visit, he agreed to go with me. When we got to my parents’ house, my mother called everyone and pleaded that I repeat all I told her at my sister’s wedding. I did. “What seems to be the problem Sade? This was the same young man you brought to us seven years ago despite being engaged to Sylvester. You threatened that if you don’t marry him you will kill yourself. Today you are telling us you don’t remember him? How possible could that be?” My father fumed. To convince me that I was excited marrying Wale, they also showed me our engagement and wedding pictures. I also watched our wedding video but all these did not make any meaning to me. They even showed me my pictures and the children in London and Dubai respectively but it just didn’t click. “Sade, are you really serious that you cannot remember any of these?” Asked my mother. “No, mother,” I replied.
While we were there still trying to figure out what could be the problem, I had a flashback. “Yes, yes, I now remember where I saw this face (pointing at Wale) for the first time,” I said. “I remember I had a flat tyre on my way home one evening and a young man offered to help me change the tyre. When he finished, I thanked and gave him N500 for his help and I drove off. Hmm … that was years ago. I also remember that yesterday evening when I was clearing the wardrobe in the bedroom and suddenly a small calabash fell off from a corner. It had some mixture in it that had a foul smell. I just swept and mopped the floor. I also remember going to bed with a terrible headache,” I revealed.
Everyone noticed that at this point Wale was very uncomfortable on his seat. “Wale, what calabash is Sade talking about? What did you do to my daughter?” My father queried. “I don’t know what calabash she is talking about,” he explained. My father then threatened to call in the police if he finds out any foul play. He told us to go home while he consults with some people. “Take Sade home while I consult with some people. Wale, I hope your hands are clean if not you will spend the rest of your life in prison,” he warned.
At this moment, Wale revealed he had a confession. He said: “That fateful day seven years ago, when I met Sade, I was actually going home from a native doctor’s place. I have had a series of heartbreaks and betrayals from women I love, so I decided to visit the baba so that he would give me love portion. The love portion, according to him, is to be used on any woman I see and like. He stressed that once I liked any woman and I touched her, she would automatically fall in love with me. Fortunately, I saw that she had a flat tyre and needed help, I offered to help her. Although, she gave me N500, because I liked her person I made sure my hands touched her when she was giving me the money. Immediately, she liked and fell hopelessly in love with me. That day, we also exchanged phone numbers and home address. I am not surprised she cannot remember what happened in the seven years we were together because baba said the charm would make the woman not to remember people or happenings from the day I touched her with the charm. He said the charm should be renewed every two years but he warned that the day the charm clears off her eyes, she would remember only happenings that took place within 8 -12 hours. I was supposed to renew the charm last year, which was the sixth year but I refused because I had truly fallen in love with Sade even if she did not realise what was happening around her. But since the calabash fell and got broken, she became free and came back to her senses. I have truly come to love Sade. However, I am sorry,” he pleaded.
Everyone was shocked to their bone marrow while I burst into tears. He pleaded with everyone to forgive him. My father told him to go home while they determine what should be done. I have been at my parents place for some time now but he keeps calling to apologise. My parents insist that they cannot make any decision for me although my marriage to Wale was not with clear eyes. However, they promised to stand by me in whatever my decision is.
I went home recently to pack some of my belongings but when I got there and saw my boys, all I could do was to weep. Junior walked up to me and said, “Mummy, daddy said you are now living in our grandparents’ house. But, why? Why did you leave us? Did daddy do anything wrong to you? We have missed you, please come back home to us.” “Junior, my dear you will not understand even if I explain to you until tomorrow. But all I can tell you is that, mummy needs some time alone. Whatever happens, I want you to know mummy loves you and your brothers,” I said, weeping. “But, can we visit you at grandma’s house,” he asked. “Yes, my dear. Tell daddy to bring you anytime you feel like seeing me,” I said. I hugged and told them to be good boys. Wale stood at a corner feeling guilty but I knew I was not ready to see him as he repulsed me.
I will not deny it that I love my children and would not want to stay apart from them but how do I continue to live with such a man as Wale who charmed me into loving and marrying him? How will they understand what their father did to me at this their tender age? I don’t even love him. But do I continue to stay in the marriage because I have children with him? I need time so that I can make the right decision. But, will my own right decision be the best for my children? He says he has repented. What do I do?
Things We Do For Love!!!: What is a kiss?
Things We Do For Love!!!: What is a kiss?: What is a kiss? A kiss is a common physical display of affection that involves the lips, and sometimes the nose and tongue as well as ot...
What is a kiss?
What is a kiss?
A kiss is a common physical display of affection that involves the lips, and sometimes the nose and tongue as well as other places of the body.
In view of………..
(1) Geometry… “KISS IS THE SHORTEST DISTANCE BETWEEN 2 LIPS!”
(2) Economics… “KISS IS THAT THING FOR WHICH DEMAND IS ALWAYS HIGHER THAN SUPPLY!”
(3) Physics…KISS IS THE PROCESS OF CHARGING A HUMAN BODY!”
(4) Computer…“KISS IS LIKEA LAN, IN WHICH 2 BODIES ARE CONNECTED WITHOUT ANY DATA CABLE!”
A kiss is a common physical display of affection that involves the lips, and sometimes the nose and tongue as well as other places of the body.
In view of………..
(1) Geometry… “KISS IS THE SHORTEST DISTANCE BETWEEN 2 LIPS!”
(2) Economics… “KISS IS THAT THING FOR WHICH DEMAND IS ALWAYS HIGHER THAN SUPPLY!”
(3) Physics…KISS IS THE PROCESS OF CHARGING A HUMAN BODY!”
(4) Computer…“KISS IS LIKEA LAN, IN WHICH 2 BODIES ARE CONNECTED WITHOUT ANY DATA CABLE!”
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